Believe it or not, couples that break up get back together all the time. The difference between those who reunite and those that never speak to one another again comes down to post breakup behavior. Understanding how to win back your ex girlfriend the right way, with the right approach and behavior, can save you from the pain and heartache of breakup.
Winning her back is going to require more than just wishful thinking. You never want to plea with her "just give me one more chance", or make promises you can't keep "things will be different this time, I promise". No matter how justified you feel, this approach won't work. Even worse, it will make you look weak or pathetic. They've heard it all before.
Here's the first thing you have to do. Accept the breakup. Acknowledge the fact that the relationship is over, at least for the time being.
Regardless of the reason or reasons for the breakup, you can't turn things around until you understand, completely, what went wrong and why. There is a good chance that the reason "You think" your girlfriend broke up with you, is not the actual reason your relationship ended.
Now is the time to be mature and respectful. You've accepted the breakup, for now. Be honest with your ex girlfriend. Let her know that you've accepted it, and that you understand and respect her decision. I know it may seem counterintuitive, but it's important you do this.
You also want to avoid looking desperate by trying to stay in contact with her. Nothing will push your ex girlfriend away faster than frequent calling, texting or Facebook messaging. Clingy and needy is not attractive. And for goodness sake, don't do any drunk dialing or texting, or it'll be over for good. Instead, you need to be rediscovering the happy, confident, independent person you were when she first met you.
Your ex needs to see that you are living your life happily, without her. When she sees you moving on, with a positive, happy lease on life, a number of things will start to cross her mind, and she'll begin wondering what has lead to this sudden change. "Does he still want me?", "Does he still love me?", "Has he already found someone else?" are just a few of the thoughts she may be having.
Many relationships CAN be saved, and YOUR relationship with your ex girlfriend is no different, as long as you don't ruin your chances by doing those things mentioned that make you look clingy, needy and desperate. By following the initial steps laid out above, you'll be giving yourself the best chance at getting your ex back.
At this point you're probably thinking "Well that's all well and good, but what's the next step? Is there a plan?" The Good News is, Yes! There is a Plan that will walk you step-by-step from your breakup, until you make up. It has worked for thousands of couples and it can work for you. Click here to learn all about it and make sure to Watch the Video at the beginning of the Guidebook.
Always remember, life is short. If you still love her, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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